Do cheaters stay together?

Do Cheaters Stay Together? (How Long Affairs Last)

It is difficult to determine the average length of a love affair, as it can depend on a variety of factors, including the nature of the relationship, the level of commitment of the partners, and the level of discretion exercised by the partners.

Love affairs can be short-lived, lasting for only a few days or weeks, or they may be more extended, lasting for months or even years. Love affairs can involve either sexual or emotional intimacy outside of a committed relationship. So the intensity of the affair can have an effect on how long it may be destined to last.

Some people involved in affairs may choose to pursue a relationship and may consider the possibility of marriage. They may see their affair as an opportunity to start a new chapter in their lives or to explore a deeper level of commitment with their partner.

Other people involved in affairs may choose to end the affair and to focus on their committed relationships or to pursue other options. They may recognize that the affair was not sustainable or may not be compatible with their long-term goals or values.

Affairs can end for a variety of reasons, and the specific circumstances of the ending can depend on the nature of the relationship and the individual circumstances of the partners involved.

Here are some potential reasons that affairs may end:

  • One or both partners decide to end the affair: Some affairs may end because one or both partners decide that they no longer want to continue the relationship. This may be due to a variety of factors, such as changes in feelings or circumstances, a desire to focus on other relationships or priorities, or a realization that the affair is not sustainable or compatible with their long-term goals or values.
  • The affair is discovered: Some affairs may end when they are discovered by a third party, such as a spouse or partner, family member, or friend. This can lead to significant consequences, including the potential breakdown of committed relationships, legal or financial issues, and social or professional repercussions.
  • The partners drift apart: Some affairs may end because the partners lose interest or connection over time. This may be due to a variety of factors, such as changes in feelings or circumstances, a lack of compatibility or shared interests, or a lack of effort to maintain the relationship.


It seems relationships stemming from an affair are no more likely to last than any other type of relationship. The motivation for the start of the affair does not appear to have an impact on it’s longevity. Most cheaters believe they will be ‘better off’ with the other person. But statistically these affairs are just as likely to thrive or die as any other relationship. It begs the question if it was really worth it.